Many of the troubled teens enrolled here come from troubled homes where families are dealing with any number of stressful circumstances. When an 18-year old found out that his parents had filed for divorce, his visits and phone calls home became full of their conflicts, adding to his own struggles. As it turned out, many of his friends here knew first-hand about divorcing parents and could share their experience, strength and hope with him. Their unanimous suggestion? That he learn to detach; that he tend to his own healing and emotional growth and not get caught up in the problems between his parents. "It's your principles before their personalities," said one friend. Detaching isn't easy, but it's a critical component of the 12-Step program.