Prior to being sent to The Family School, my life revolved around alcohol and drugs, boys, self-mutilation, and anything that helped me escape reality. My addictions took over my life and I pushed away my family to protect my disease.
I did not have the hardest life growing up, but my family did have issues. When I was two my father fell and broke his spinal cord. It was hard knowing that my dad was different than other kids' dads, and in elementary school I started acting out by fighting and being defiant.
When I arrived at The Family School, I was arriving at my third high school since the 10th grade. I was self-centered, violent, and truly hurting. From drugs to relationships, I was always ready to sacrifice who I was for whatever would take the focus off me.
I was a typical spoiled brat before I got sent to The Family School. My life consisted only of guys and parties. At the age of sixteen, I thought it was normal to stay out all night partying and going to clubs and bars.
Valentine's Day lost its romance after I was arrested with my girlfriend that day two years ago. Consequently, my parents decided to do something about my deceitful, destructive, and deadend lifestyle.
Before arriving at The Family School, I did whatever I wanted and didn't care about the consequences. At home I didn't do anything in school for two years and then got sent to a rehab and got kicked out.
At home I was a monster. I was thrown out of class almost daily, picked fights, got involved in abusive relationships, and was violent towards my family. They finally had enough of my outbursts and disrespect, and sent me to wilderness.
Before I got to The Family School I was involved with drugs and crime, and I did whatever I wanted to do. I was not going to school, and I was fighting against my family and everyone else that got on the way of me getting what I wanted.
Every time I think of my stay at The Family School, I think of how weird it is that I came without substance abuse. I reflect on the fact of how bad I had to be to get here, and realize I was just that.
Financial Warning Signs of Teen Substance Abuse
By Susan J. Runge, LCSW-R, SSW
Parents rightly want their children to feel safe, comfortable, and unhampered with concerns about money, perhaps wanting to correct for a struggle that they once experienced in their own teenage years. There is a dangerous pitfall, however, that many parents fall into when they indiscriminately and ambiguously dole out funds to teens who often do not understand that these offerings are privileges rather than rights. Parents expect that their teens will be grateful, responsible, and will reciprocate by making good use of what is given to them. The opposite can occur. Teens may develop a sense of "being owed" and may then become resentful and demanding when they are not immediately gratified. This in addition to the boredom that results from not having to work for what they want or need can help set the stage for substance abuse.
In a survey conducted by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse (CASA) at Columbia University, measuring the impact of extra money, boredom, and stress on substance abuse in the teen population, researchers found that teens who receive $25 or more per week in allowance are nearly twice as likely to drink, smoke, and use illegal drugs. The survey also found that teens who are bored are 50 percent more likely to turn to these substances. A teen equates "getting high" with belonging to a group, being "cool" and daring, filling up empty time, socializing, easing painful self-consciousness, and escaping from problems. Alcohol, drugs, and accompanying high-risk behaviors often provide immediate, temporary relief for angst-filled teens.
The course is predictable. The user is curious and asks or is offered a free serving of alcohol or drugs. If this results in a pleasurable experience, the user will move to recreational use on weekends, then to daily use. This becomes very expensive. Teens with more money will have more access to a wider variety, higher potency, and larger quantity of substances. Once they have developed an addiction, they will stop at nothing and spare no expense to get what they need. Where will this money come from? Parents are frequently the most immediate source. Indicators of substance abuse that parents are advised to watch out for include: missing valuables, credit cards and cash, repeated requests for advances on allowances, borrowing money from siblings or relatives, complaints of missing items from neighbors, the appearance of large amounts of cash, new clothes, or equipment that parents do not recognize that may have been shoplifted.
As parents come into an awareness of a substance abuse problem, they may ask how it is possible that their teen could have slipped so far into trouble. What would drive anyone to such dangerous and criminal activity when everything, every material thing, has been provided? Research has proven that the teenage brain is not fully developed, particularly the portion of the brain that discriminates between what is an unsafe or safe decision. Teens tend to think that they are immortal and invulnerable, that they are immune from consequences, or that that will be miraculously rescued at the eleventh hour from disaster. The answer is, then, that these troubled teens do not think ahead at all. They are living in the moment and attempting to fill an inner emptiness. Adrenalin flows freely when stealing, sneaking, breaking laws, out-smarting authority, dealing with large amounts of money and getting high.
Teens are in crisis long before they realize it and often long before their parents realize it. At this point it may be necessary to get professional help by removing the teen from a toxic environment of substance abusing peers to a therapeutic setting such as The Family Foundation School where he or she will receive support and education.